25 years ago tonight i partied with these hippies


i had two groups of friends at ucsb, my nexus friends and my hippie friends.

the last thing i ever thought i would turn into when i went to santa barbara was a hippie

but these people got me. and got me good.

it starts with the love. so much pure pure love. not that the nexus didnt have it too,

they did, but these kids, we went through it.

i dont remember ever being as poor as i was with them, or as happy.

yes winning best in state at the nexus was pretty close

but i lived with these people. couches were slept in.

trips were taken.

i learned so much with them, from the dorms

through today.

it’s probably not fair to compare the nexus and the hippies

but the circles intersected with one person: greg mcilvaine

he was in san nic dorm too, and we were friends, and he loved thirsty thursdays and all that

and when greg met the nexus, thats when you get Mons Pubis

the perfect melding of hard rock (the nexus) and psychedelia (pictured, above).

i am the luckiest man in the world not because of the things ive seen and touched

but because of the people ive had the great great fortune to meet and party with.

it blows my mind that we got “dressed up” for our Christmas party,

which we put together because we knew it would be our last one all together,

twenty five years ago.

why didnt anyone tell us that time flies

picked up the cutest lil blonde girl

jerseyshe said she wanted me to take her to this tanning salon up the way.

she works there.

i told her i know nothing about tanning salons. i asked her to please tell me everything there is to know.

she said you can get spray tans starting at $30, but most really good ones can cost $70 which is why many people do an all-you-can tan membership of $100 a month.

she told me that the thing that surprised her the most was how many normal looking DUDEs regularly get a tan. not body builders, not male models, not Vinny and the Situation, but just normal bros.

speaking of the Situation, she said that on Halloween lots of people come in to get orange tans so they can rock the Jersey Shore Halloween costume.

but heres the thing i wanted to tell her. she was beautiful. naturally beautiful. her skin was not tanned and that was perfectly ok. better than ok. she was exactly who youd think of if you thought California Girl.

i wanted to tell her, what are you doing? you dont need to change one thing. you cannot improve. you have what all these other girls are trying to get and so many dudes want in their gf. but i didnt say nothing because who knows why she does it. and it’s none of my beeswax.

so i told her shed see me in there soon. and she LOLed.